Do You Think Being Married Is Worse Than Being Single?
Jen is a typical Love U client.
Bright, hardworking, loyal, Type A, anxious attachment style – Jen stayed with her husband for 27 years, despite many years of being unhappy.
We could delve into all of her ex’s flaws but we don’t have enough time.
Suffice it to say that Jen married a cute, charismatic, financially successful narcissist who slowly sucked the life out of her.
She couldn’t speak up or she’d be berated or gaslighted.
She couldn’t reason with him because he only cared about himself.
She couldn’t leave because she was afraid of destabilizing her children’s lives.
- Confidence, Past Baggage
In her mid-50s, Jen finally got the courage to extricate herself from her marriage. She had the confidence of knowing her job as a mom was mostly done and that she had enough money to support herself without having to depend on her ex. And while it was scary to be alone after 27 years, Jen felt an enormous weight lifted.
Now that she was no longer walking on eggshells to keep the peace at home, she filled her life with things she loved. Ballroom dancing. Pickleball. International travel to places she never would have gone with her family.
Jen is far happier as a divorced woman than she was as a married woman.
Healthy relationships with her kids. Stable income from her career. Breathing easily now that she’s no longer with a narcissist. Come to think of it, Jen can’t remember a time in her adult life where she’s ever felt this free and content.
And yet… something is missing.
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