I was a 55-year old never married woman when I engaged the services of Evan Marc Katz. I had little experience in love having yearned 18 years for someone not destined for me. I’d recently made the decision to move on and online date. Though I grew up in a family of males, I knew nothing about dating. As a result, I’d had one painful online breakup prior to working with Evan and another one in the works when I signed up with Evan.

Evan taught me a LOT of love “lessons” in a short period of time without having to experience them for myself. Listening to how he used the train wrecks of otherwise smart successful women to provide teachable moments for us all was invaluable. He has an ability to sift through suffering and get at the heart of a situation quickly. On behalf of all GREAT women, Evan doesn’t tolerate bad behavior coming from men. Not only is he gifted at pointing it out but also excellent at getting women to see that one extra moment focused on “Not The One” was a lost moment in the search for love.

The work Evan and I did together as I navigated the victories and defeats of my-then-current “relationship” was invaluable. Every possible truth about men and dating reared its ugly head and Evan was right there to “set the record straight.” He was gentle, tough, hugely insightful and extremely accurate at decoding a man’s words, his actions, his lack of action, his likely intention. It was like having a direct line to a man’s “private talk.”

But mostly I learned about me. I learned how to give the right men a second chance and bypass the wrong men quickly. I learned how to sit comfortably and uncomfortably in my own confidence and allow a man to choose me while women swirled all around him. I learned to love a man for what he has to give and to give up years of finely honed “expectations” which had been driving me into the online ditch I learned to distrust my feelings when they came from a place of anxiety, unprocessed chemical desire, or panic. I learned to judge a man by his effort and in the end his kindness and humor.

And now after 3,838 views on Match, I have attracted in — my guy — we both can’t believe how lucky we got that our time together is now. We’re engaged! I’ve done a lot of work to get to this place — beyond Evan — but Evan was able to take the raw ingredients and pull together a game plan and a way forward that was smart and organic and after that, all I had to do was keep showing up.

Evan, you are near and dear to my heart.

And you rock — in a kind of sex, drugs and rock n roll way 🙂

Julie Z