I signed up for Love U in a moment of sheer desperation — being tired of being single, being tired of knowing I was doing something wrong and no one to tell me what it is.
You always did tell it like it is. I have to say thank you for believing in me, and giving me confidence I didn’t know I had. Thank you for seeing that there was something to be seen in me, that I didn’t even know existed.
How bad did the doormat thing get? So bad. I was living under his roof, and made every meal. Never repeated a menu item in the 6 weeks we lived together, which was after a year of being together. A year where he was still free to meet other women. 6 weeks of living together where sometimes he didn’t come home. “Gone to Vienna, be back later” And sometimes I could sleep in his bed and sometimes I couldn’t. That wasn’t even the end of it, but those were things I did and totally thought were ok at the time. That is lower than low.
Eventually I ended it. Actually, I didn’t. He broke up me with on Valentine’s Day.
It took me time, but I slowly started to realize I had value. Still, something was off. I felt desperate, and when I was out, I was chasing, so masculine and proactive. We get so used to being proactive in our lives and our careers, and that’s just not how relationships work.
I wasn’t finding anyone I wanted to be with, chasing the wrong men. I was tired of being alone, doing it all by myself, and sometimes your girlfriends don’t have the answers.
You seemed like you did. So, on a low ebb of a night, in quiet desperation, I joined Love U. I never anticipated how life changing it would be. I jumped in fully. I read every post in the group, and having the contact with Evan every week and also, the private coaching was invaluable.
My Love U partner became a very good friend, and I have other friends from the group that also helped me. I can literally pin point each a-ha! moment and it feels there is another one each time we spoke.
- That I can be the CEO.
- That I don’t have to be the hostess or doormat.
- That I am the catch, and don’t have to chase.
- That men are abundant and I don’t need to be masculine, or worse, desperate.
- That I have value.
- That I have game.
- That I can be myself and still know if a man actually likes me for me.
- That I didn’t have to work so hard – I was working so hard before for so little, and now I can do so much less and get so much more.
Finally, I wanted to you know that Blake are now engaged! Thanks for all your help and support in finding myself, and because of that, him.
You’ve honestly given me the best gift I could have ever received.
As for other Love U women, they will be well represented at my wedding. Julia, Roshawn, Katherine, Adriana, Sarah, Jen, Elizabeth and of course, Kate will all be there. Julia, Adriana, Jen, Elizabeth are all married. Jen just had a baby even. Roshawn is in LTR for years now. You’ve done very well. I was at Julia’s and Adriana’s wedding, too.
Look at all the love you’ve created!
For all of that, I can only thank you and the women of Love U. You changed my life.
From the bottom of my heart,
Thank you.
Sahaja P.
