‘Why He Disappeared’ is exactly what I would have wanted to write if I were a man…Evan tells it to us straight – with humor, with passion, and in a way that will stick with you – that will actually make a huge difference for you.
We women have been sold the lie for so long that we have no power in relationships – and Evan turns that lie around and gives you your power back. He not only gives you your power back, he shows you exactly how to use it – and what’s even MORE important, how NOT to use it. I love his “tough love” – because sometimes it’s hard to see how much power we actually have, and because so many “gurus” are afraid to say the truth about men and relationships.
If you’ve been frustrated and confused about why your relationships aren’t working the way you want them to – this book will change your love life. Coming from a man who’s had so much experience helping women in real life, who has so many success stories in his track record and has a distinctly masculine point of view is just so incredibly valuable. I loved it.
Thanks so much for visiting my website. I’m excited to share with you the secrets of what men are really thinking, but before I do, I want to ask you a question about your past:
Have you ever felt an intense connection with a man – one where you felt like you “just knew” it was right?
You know what I’m talking about.
He was good looking and charming. He seemed to “get” you and seemed to know exactly what to say to make you feel good. He gave you butterflies when you thought about him and your knees would go weak when he’d look at you a certain way.
He gave you that hopeful, anything-is-possible feeling. You know that feeling. You love that feeling.
Nothing is more real. Nothing is more exciting. Nothing gives you more hope about the prospect of true love. And since all the positive signs were there, you began to look further ahead.
You started to picture your future together.
You told your friends and family about him.
You imagined events down the road – traveling, holidays, kids.
You had every reason to think he felt the same way. He told you that you were beautiful and sexy. He would ask you if you’ve ever been to exotic destinations and that maybe one day he’d take you. He’d hold your hand and share his dreams of having a family someday.
He seemed so into you. Everything was going so great.
At first, you didn’t believe it was really happening. You figured it must be some miscommunication.
He told you he’d call you, but he didn’t.
He didn’t call the day after that, either. Or the next. He didn’t e-mail, or text, or anything. Zilch. Zip. Nada.
So you began to make excuses for him to make yourself feel better.
“Maybe he just got busy.”
“Maybe he’s having a hard week.”
“Maybe he’s in a bad mood.”
You tried to stay calm, but inside, you were an emotional wreck. You attempted to piece things together in your mind. Did you do something wrong without even knowing?
No, you told yourself. Everything was perfect.
You went through the checklist in your mind. He definitely found you attractive. He definitely made an effort to see you. He definitely talked about making future plans.
Disappearing men are the most common dating issue in the entire world, and yet there don’t seem to be any solutions. Worse, you find that you can’t successfully move on.
You meet other guys who don’t give you the same spark.
You spend nights thinking about where you went wrong.
You burn up countless hours with your friends, who assure you that he didn’t deserve you, that he’s intimidated by you, that he’s an emotionally unavailable player who’s afraid of commitment.
And while you want to believe them, a part of you wonders if you might have played a small role in why he disappeared.
If you’d only understood him better, if you only handled things smoother, if you had only given him what he wanted, maybe there would have been a different outcome.
I hate to tell you, but your instincts are right.
You could have kept your intense connection alive…
You could have avoided this sadness and confusion…
You could have had the relationship of a lifetime…
…if you’d only understood the unspoken desires of men.
Now, for the first time, you can.
This book is so simple yet so profound and important. If every woman knew and actually DID what it suggests, there’d be a lot more WILDLY happy women – make that COUPLES – in the world.
I LOVE ‘Why He Disappeared’ and agree with every word. Get it, read it, reread it and commit it to memory, and then stand back and be amazed at how much better your love life (not to mention your whole life!) becomes.
First of all, it’s not your fault that you don’t understand men. There are no high school or college classes on this subject, no dating Masters degrees that you can put on your wall.
You go to school, you date around, you fall in love, you fall out of love. You break a few hearts. You have your heart broken. This is the way we pursue relationships.
As an intelligent woman, you’ve probably even noticed patterns in your behavior. Your attraction to cute, charismatic alpha males. Your aversion to nice guys who bore you. Your desire to find a man who is taller, smarter, more generous, and more successful than you. Your refusal to settle with the wrong guy, no matter what.
You feel like you’ve learned a lot, yet the results are always the same:
You don’t want the men who do want you.
You want the men who don’t want you.
And after the latest disappearing act from a man who really seemed like he cared, you’ve just about had it. You’re determined to figure out WHY this keeps happening, WHAT you can do to prevent it, and HOW to avoid men who will break your heart.
But, for the life of you, you can’t figure this puzzle out.
You know you’re a great catch.
You know that you’ve got a lot to offer.
You know that you’re smart, interesting, independent, and passionate.
All you’re looking for is a man who has all of these qualities as well.
Is that so wrong?
Of course not! Really, you deserve it!
Your friends, your family, women’s magazines, dating books, Oprah: everyone reminds you that you’re a goddess, a princess, a diva. Love will find you when you least expect it! Don’t waste the pretty!
And yet here you are, at the end of your rope, after spending one month, three months, six months, one year, WASTING your precious time on another man who disappeared.
STOP!
The secret to understanding men doesn’t rest in talking to other women.
‘Why He Disappeared’ is a gift to successful single women who are ready for love. With Evan’s deep understanding of men, love, dating and relationships and his straight forward, no-nonsense style, he knows how to coach women into the marriage of their dreams.
If you are truly serious about finding the love of your life then I suggest you fully commit yourself to being guided by Evan.
And not just any man. You want to learn from a man who’s made it his life’s work helping women understand men and teaching them how to have more fun with dating and relationships.
My name is Evan Marc Katz. I’m a dating coach who has written two previous books on relationships, and coached thousands of women to understand men. Before getting married in 2008, I was a serial dater, had numerous six-month girlfriends, three-month trial relationships, six-week flings, and, yes, even a few one-night stands.
In other words, I’m not just a professional dating coach, I’m also the guy who disappeared on you. The guy who seemed like he was really into you, but was having second thoughts in his head the whole time.
And I’m speaking for other men – quality men – who have done the exact same thing. We are smart, we are kind, we are successful, and we are as relationship-oriented as you are.
But there are a few major mistakes that the most impressive women routinely make, which drive men to seek out other relationships.
After fifteen years of dating and seven years of coaching, here are the three biggest ones I’ve been able to identify:
You look great for your age. You’re educated. You make your own money. You’re smart, analytical, resilient, driven, ambitious, and independent. You know what you’re worth and, after a few bad experiences, you’ve vowed never to compromise to be with anyone who isn’t up to par.
Yet every once in a blue moon, you meet a man who makes the cut.
Your attraction is strong. Your connection is real. Your chemistry is white hot.
You dive into a relationship … and he breaks up with you a few months later.
Next thing you know, he’s involved with another woman who isn’t nearly as attractive, successful, or impressive as you are. And you scratch your head and wonder what head injury this man has suffered to choose such a woman.
Why would he give you up for her? It’s completely confusing… unless you understand men. Then, it makes perfect sense:
What you’re looking for in a man is NOT what he’s looking for in a woman.
Thus, your strongest traits – your intelligence, your success, your independence, your drive – don’t matter as much to him. He wants what he can’t get from his male
friends.
A man wants a woman who makes him feel good, who makes him feel loved and secure. He wants someone who makes him feel sexy and trusted.
Regardless of what you do for a living, how successful you are, or even how beautiful you are, if you don’t consistently make him feel good when he’s with you, he’s going to disappear and find a woman who does.
Men win you over by giving to you. We ask you out. We call you. We pay for dates. We initiate sex. We ask for commitment. We propose marriage. We give. You receive. Reverse this order by asking him out, initiating sex, asking for commitment, or proposing marriage, and a masculine guy will feel, well, emasculated. Thus, if you want a masculine guy, your greatest move is to embrace your passive feminine side.
You may hate the word passive. You may think it sounds like a 1950’s housewife, or a helpless woman who can’t do anything for herself.
Not quite.
Being passive doesn’t mean that you can’t do anything proactive. It means that you’re choosing not to do anything proactive, because being proactive during courtship is ineffective in making a man feel attracted to you.
Here are a few common examples of being proactive:
You think you’re being real; he thinks you’re acting clingy. Understand, the man of your dreams doesn’t NEED to be pushed to be your boyfriend.
The disconnect is this: You want men to actively pursue you. But most men do not want to be actively pursued. The only guys who do are really shy, really insecure, or really clueless about women. Most men will value you more if they have to win you over. That’s what guys mean about a “challenge”. So step away from “The Rules,” which tell you to refuse to return his calls or act like you’re busy when you’re not. All I ´m asking you to do is embrace your receptive feminine energy.
Continue to push men for dates, commitment or clarity, and watch them run away.
You’ve probably been hurt by guys in the past.
One boyfriend may have cheated on you. Another may have dated you for three years but didn’t want to get married. Another might have been a friends-with-benefits guy who never wanted a relationship with you.
And because you’ve had these life experiences, you’re determined to learn from them. You tell yourself that you’re never going to find yourself in that position again. So you become vigilant. You look for the signs. You seek “red flags” and instantly dismiss a man you even SUSPECT is going to be a player, a commitment phobe or a wishy-washy loser.
You ask him probing questions on the first date, looking for chinks in his armor.
You make it perfectly clear about what you will or won’t tolerate up front.
You ask where your relationship is going after the third date.
Then you wonder why he disappeared.
Here’s the deal:
Men are not heartbreakers looking for our next victim. It is never our goal to hurt you at any point in time. Like you, we’re not sure what will make us happy. All we know is that we’ll know it when we see it.
But you’ve gotta give us the chance to reveal ourselves over time.
Push your boyfriend to know where things are going too soon and you’ll quickly find that they’re not going anywhere at all.
How can you learn about a man and protect yourself without scaring him away?
Fortunately, it’s not that hard to show you how to make different choices in your love life — choices that lead to more nurturing, stable, meaningful relationships without compromising your needs or risking that a good man will disappear on you.
I’m a 25 year old British girl who has recently come back to the UK after living abroad for four years. In that time I had a lot of boyfriends but none really stuck longer than a few months – and I thought it was because I always knew I was going to leave (I moved every year or so) and didn’t really commit fully (even though I was desperate to). I thought that when I came back to England everything would fall into place and I’d settle down.
I have a lot of friends and am generally a very happy, easy going person. I also have three brothers so am very at ease with men and didn’t struggle getting dates but just couldn’t get over that two month hump. I’ve only had one long term relationship that broke up when I was 20. I had to conclude that I was good on paper but not in reality, as a girlfriend, and I needed to know why.
The biggest lesson I learned from WHD was to relinquish control. It’s been liberating. It’s still very early days with W but it’s been nothing but a positive experience and I’m having a lot of fun. I’m used to being proactive in everything I do, so waiting for him to get in touch with me, for him to ask for another date and organise it, and for him to pay is a real shift but I’m loving it. I don’t feel needy, I don’t feel like I’m hanging around waiting for him to reply, and I’m not in any rush to cement and confirm what’s going on. It’s ok to just go with the flow. I always wanted a man who I felt would look after me, but never let anyone even try before. Now I am and he’s rising to the challenge. I also have some perspective on it all because I don’t feel consumed by this relationship. Yes I enjoy his company but no I won’t be a shell of my former self if it doesn’t work out.
I wanted to thank you Evan for giving me that perspective to understand – I feel more myself in this relationship than I ever have before, even though the nuance has shifted.
Thanks again, and give my love to your clever wife for me 🙂
For too long, you’ve accepted this pain as just part of the dating process.
It doesn’t have to be.
There are women out there — not many, but a few — who are really good at handling men.
There are women who are in happy relationships, women who have happy marriages, women who don’t spend any time wondering about why he disappeared or when he’ll disappear.
It’s not that these women are smarter than you (they’re not), prettier than you (they’re not), or kinder than you (they’re not). Perhaps they have brothers. Maybe they have lots of guy friends. They could have had a number of long-term relationships. Whatever it is, there’s a handful of women who know what makes men tick.
That’s the big issue, isn’t it? Why do guys do what they do? Why are they so confusing?
They’re confusing because you are not a man. (Believe me, that’s a good thing!)
But just like 99.99% of men could use a crash-course education in understanding women, the vast majority of women have never bothered to view the world through a man’s eyes.
And if you’re only viewing the world through your eyes, you’re only getting half the picture.
I’d like to give you the rest of the picture.
I’d like to explain to you why men choose some women and not others.
I’d like to illustrate to you that the women who do best with men are those who truly love men for all that they are.
Strong. Smart. Sexy. Generous. Thoughtful. Sensitive. Funny.
Believe it or not, there are LOTS of men out there who are ALL of these things — but they may not be looking for you as you’re looking for them.
I should know. I was one of those guys. I have no doubt that I was the subject of a few dozen “why did he disappear?” conversations.
I also know that despite seeming like a player, I was always looking for a relationship, I never wanted to hurt anyone, and would never openly criticize a woman I was dating. I was a genuinely good guy who wanted to settle down and have a family, but went through hundreds of dates who didn’t understand me as a man.
On paper, there was nothing wrong with these women. Smart, successful, interesting, educated, attractive, sophisticated, ambitious, opinionated — these were the qualities that drew me to them. Yet they were never enough.
It wasn’t until I met my wife — with two brothers, an ex-husband and a father in the military — that I truly found a woman who understood men, who knew how to make me WANT to commit to her for a lifetime.
My attractive, relationship-oriented male clients feel the same way. Every single one has identical frustrations with the women they date, which has nothing to do with how these women look, how smart they are, how funny they are, how successful they are, or how educated they are.
Date after date, week after week, it’s always the same story: Men of all different ages, of all different stripes, from all over the world pass up amazing women for reasons that the women have never even considered.
Yet somehow, I still didn’t think there was a need to create an entire book around just one question.
Then I found myself on the phone with a close friend who happened to be a business coach. She’s in her early 40’s, attractive, successful, and highly self-aware. When we were discussing her latest fizzled relationship, the first thing she said was: “If you could write something that explains, once and for all, why men disappear in the middle of dating, you would be doing the world a great service.”
I immediately got to work.
I’ve always had a lot of male friends and never had problems communicating with them. In fact, I think most of them appreciated my directness, honesty, and no-nonsense approach. But when it came to dating, I could never seem to keep someone (who I wanted) around for more than a year or two. I didn’t understand this because I have always felt like I am exactly the woman you described – smart, attractive, independent, successful…
what I thought would be the kind of woman any guy would want to have. I realized all these failed relationships had one common denominator: me. So I set out to learn what I was doing wrong. I wanted to know what I was doing to push them away when that was exactly the opposite of the reaction I wanted.
Your explanation of Masculine vs. Feminine energy made the biggest impact. Don’t try to control ANYTHING (or be pro-active)! My job is to be receptive! Also, explaining that men are attracted to women because of the way they make men FEEL (and not for the same reasons women are attracted to men) was very eye-opening!!
A couple of months ago I approached a guy at an event and after some conversation he asked what made me approach him and the only response I could think of was the truth, that there was just something different about him, and I wanted to find out what it was. I fought my urge to be proactive and contact him and instead went about my life as normal. Two weeks later, he called to ask me out. It was at this time that I found “Why He Disappeared” and read the whole thing in one afternoon, before my first official date with this guy…. (and when I decided to give him a “mulligan” for taking two weeks to call). Following the advice in this book has made such a huge impact! The result: we’re still dating and he is the most respectful, generous, honest, attentive and appreciative man I’ve ever dated. He seems to be strongly and unabashedly attached to me (thank you, Active Listening!), and last night he asked me to be his girlfriend! I feel like I have always been exceptionally nurturing, but it’s contradictory to the masculine energy… embracing my feminine energy has been key!
I feel extremely empowered and it’s nice to finally have all of my wonderful qualities noticed and appreciated!
What I’ve compiled in my eBook, “Why He Disappeared” are the very things that men hope and pray that you figure out on your own.
The same exact way you hope that a man will simply listen to you instead of telling you how to fix your problems…
…or you hope that a man will instinctively make a great effort to meet your friends and family because it’s important to you…
…or you hope that a man will immediately tell you that he sees a future with you instead of playing games because his commitment makes you feel secure…
The same way that you wish that men just UNDERSTOOD this stuff naturally, men actually wish that they were understood, too.
“I wish you really understood me.”
It’s likely that none of the men you’ve dated has ever said this to you.
They’ve probably never even said this to their friends! But they HAVE said to it to me. Not the bad men — the bad men are clueless – but the GOOD men. The men you want. The men who make you laugh. The men who believe in chivalry. The men who want families. The men who value commitment. These are the men I’m speaking for.
My eBook, “Why He Disappeared” provides an insider’s view of the entire dating process. For the first time, you will observe your own behavior during dates, courtship, and relationships from a man’s perspective.
I’ve decided to publish my book exclusively online in electronic format, so you can download it right now, and be reading it within just a few minutes…
Finally, you’ll understand what’s been getting in your way these many years, and how close you already are to being the woman of an incredible man’s dreams.
You’ll be able to tell within a couple of weeks if a man is serious about you. And if he isn’t, you’ll just be able to walk away, with your confidence sky-high because you’ll know exactly what went wrong and that it wasn’t your fault.
You’ll be able to enter each new relationship with power and optimism, instead of fearing that moment when things come crashing down.
You’ll finally know the 3 secrets of what effective women do with men to make them never want to leave.
You’ll feel amazing because you’ll be able to cut off all of the men who are only interested in you casually, and focus exclusively on the men who have long-term interest in you.
You’ll be able to learn how to make the kind of man that makes you feel weak in the knees want to commit to you, so you can experience the incredible feeling of having the RIGHT man want YOU for a change.
You’ll learn how to feel so assured and relaxed around a man, that you come across as naturally very likeable, warm and magnetic and don’t have to worry about whether he will ask you out again.
You’ll learn how to read a man’s signals from the first date, so you’re not wasting years of your life on a man who will just disappear one day.
You’ll finally be able to stop the parade of awkward coffee dates, delayed follow ups and late night texts, and be in a relationship with a man who consistently does what he says, says what he means, and treats you the way you’d like to be treated.
You’ll finally know what men think about paying for a date, the first kiss, the first sexual encounter and most importantly, a foolproof way to make sure these “touchy” issues never backfire on you again.
You’ll be able to trust a man and get rid of that cloud of confusion and anxiety that often comes with dating. You’ll never again wonder why he does what he does, when he’s going to call, or what you should do differently. You’ll know, deep inside, that whatever you’re doing, it’s the right thing.
With the information and insights you’ll learn in my eBook, “Why He Disappeared,” you’ll be able to completely change your experience with men and dating. You’ll know how to effortlessly move a man toward a more secure and stable relationship. You’ll feel better, date smarter, and experience the kind of confidence and happiness you’ve always dreamed of.
My ex-boyfriend from 11 years ago found me after 5 years of searching for me. We had 2 great dates and then I didn’t hear from him. To me it looked like we were on the road to getting back together. Why bother to spend so much time and effort to find me if he didn’t want to get back together with me? I was looking for answers and I needed to understand how the minds of men work so that I can make better choices for myself.
Quickly, I realized I have a lot of masculine energy (way more than I even thought) despite being a pageant girl and model (and yes, a wall street career woman). I learned I really needed to tone that down when it comes to dating men.
Sure enough, my ex did call me after 12 days of silence and we went on another date this week. I applied all I learned from Why He Disappeared, but especially the part about making him feel good and just to make him have fun, especially since I know how stressed he’s been lately. At the end of the night, he thanked me for allowing him to relax and have such a great time. He also mentioned how our relationship was always so easy and effortless. I almost fell out of my shoes! He even texted me early the next morning. Looks like we are on the right road. Thank you, Evan. It feels awesome to understand what I could do different to get different results.
If you’re wondering whether you can really get all of this from an eBook, and, more importantly, whether it will actually make an impact on your life, I don’t blame you. You should be skeptical. Smart women always are.
But I was delighted to find out that “Why He Disappeared” is not just effective in theory; it works wonders in practice. Just ask some of the readers who have already taken my advice to heart.
If a man consistently calls you when he says he will, and is always pushing to see you again, to the point of where you NEVER worry where the relationship is going or if he’s into you, then you don’t need this book.
If you’re the one who ALWAYS says “no” to a man or you’re the one who loses interest FIRST, then you don’t need this book.
If your man tells you he loves you and has COMMITTED himself fully to you and your relationship, and his actions are in alignment with his words, then you don’t need this book.
However…
If you’re confused and hurt because a man suddenly stopped calling for no apparent reason, then you need this book to learn what happened and get peace of mind.
If you’re anxious and waiting for “the other shoe” to drop with a man, you need this book NOW. Why? Because you may already be sending the wrong subliminal message that could make him disappear.
If you’re afraid to be vulnerable because you don’t want to get hurt if he disappears just like the last guy, then you need this book. You’ll learn exactly how to get what you want out of a relationship without closing yourself off.
If you seem to only want the men who don’t want you, and the ones who stick around are simply all wrong for you, you’ll discover why that happens and what to do about it.
If you’re agonizing over a man because you’re afraid that he’ll hurt you, be sure to download my book right away and begin with the section called “Why He Disappeared From Your Relationship.” You’ll learn how to make a necessary shift in attitude, so you can feel confident and relaxed around him instead of constantly on edge.
If you would love to know the secret to getting self-proclaimed lifelong bachelors and “players” to stop giving you the runaround, you’ll learn the 3 secrets to getting a quality man to settle down with you. These are highly effective insights from my wife, who really understands men. It’s her understanding that got a lifetime dater like me to finally pop the question!
“Why He Disappeared” will reveal things about men and dating you’ve been confused about your entire life. With the clarity and understanding you’ll get from reading my book, you’ll actually enjoy dating and relationships much, much more.
I hope it’s already clear, but if not, I’ll come out and say it:
YOU are the reason I wrote “Why He Disappeared.”
You could be my sister. You could be my friend. You could be my client.
My point is that I know women like you and I care deeply for your well-being. And nothing kills me more than knowing that you’re in such pain over your romantic relationships.
It just doesn’t seem fair.
You’ve got everything going for you, except for the one thing that is most important in life.
You’ve put yourself on the line, taken another chance on love, only to watch yet another guy disappear.
You’ve done your best to stay positive, but you’re struggling to keep up even a glimmer of hope.
And who could blame you? When every single relationship ends in disappointment, what incentive is there to keep on going?
That’s right. Not much.
Which is why you MUST do something different. Instead of staying the course and inviting in the same players and liars and emotionally unavailable guys, you need to open up to a new world view: the male one!
Understanding the male point of view is the key to connecting with a man who is a true equal.
No more relationships with flaky, noncommittal guys; “Why He Disappeared” is your magnet to attract men who are committed, devoted, and worthy of all of your gifts.
In July of 2012 I had just ended a dead end relationship. Well, he was the one that ended it by cheating on me. In an effort to keep busy, and not really expecting to find a long term relationship, I decided to sign up for Plenty of Fish. At the time, I felt very undesirable, I mean, my boyfriend with whom I was so kind, patient and caring, had just rejected me in the harshest of ways.
I needed to understand why I had stayed in that relationship for two years, knowing the whole time that it wasn’t right for me and would not make it in the long run. I realized that I stayed because I wasn’t sure anybody else would want me and I was determined to change that mindset. I knew I needed to not take the dating thing too seriously, to have fun and explore my options.
After several dates with a few different guys I met Ron. It was a week after our first date that I bought “Why He Disappeared” and I cannot tell you how glad I am that I did! I truly feel that listening to the book on an almost daily basis on my way to work is a big part of why this relationship is going as well as it is. I took several lessons away from the book, one of the most compelling being “don’t do anything”. I was most definitely a “do something” kind of gal. I wanted to know where was the relationship going? How did he feel about me? What was the next step? And on and on. This time, after listening to the book, I let Ron’s actions speak to me. I trust in them and know that he does wonderful things for me because he truly cares for me and wants to please me. I also use the advice given by Evan’s wife regarding mulligans. Oh, do I give lots of mulligans! However, on two occasions there have been issues that were bothering me for some time and I spoke to him about them. He immediately took to heart what I was saying and has strived to change the behaviors that were bothering me. I know this is because I rarely “unleash the crazy” on him and I think he respects my feelings and opinions more because of that.
Ron and I have now been dating for 5 months and it is the most enjoyable relationship I’ve ever had. He is kind, generous, thoughtful and loves surprising me. We share many of the same values regarding family, work and play and although he is not my normal “type” physically I was, with the help of “Why He Disappeared”, able to look past that and focus on what was really important, our compatibility. Although we have been exclusive since our first date he only recently started referring to us as boyfriend and girlfriend and it makes my heart sing. I really feel that we are moving towards the next level in our relationship and I continue to listen to “Why He Disappeared” on a weekly basis to keep myself grounded and remind myself to mirror his actions and let him take the lead.
I feel that the relationship with Ron could go all the way, but I have a new found sense of peace because I know that if it doesn’t, I have the skills and mindset to find another great guy. I also know that I have many desirable qualities and that I will never have to settle for a less than fabulous relationship ever again. Thanks, Evan, for writing the book, doing the blogs and giving the advice that has helped me gain the confidence to attract this wonderful man.
Let me ask you an important question.
How important is meeting the right man and creating a loving, committed future with him to you? Is it on your Top 5 list of things you think about on a weekly basis? A daily basis? Even more often?
If you’ve already wasted a lot of precious years on men who told you they cared but then fell off the face of the earth, who acted interested one minute but blew you off the next day, who told you they loved you but discovered they weren’t “in love” with you months or years later…
Then you already know you don’t want to waste another minute of another day worried and confused over why he disappeared. You want to finally understand where men are coming from and you want to know how to access that secret trigger that will keep a man so attracted to you that he’ll keep asking you out again and again…all the way to “I do.”
What would it be worth to you to have complete confidence and peace of mind when you first meet a man and know that if he doesn’t stick around, it has NOTHING to do with what you said or did?
What would it be worth to finally have the kind of close, connected and loving relationship that just keeps getting better, so you never again have to wait for the day he changes his mind?
After coaching thousands of women about dating, I know how valuable the information I share in this book is for any single woman. It can literally save you YEARS of heartache and frustration. If there’s one thing that keeps a good woman “stuck” in a bad situation, unable to move toward a healthy and fulfilling love life, it’s constantly wondering WHY that one guy disappeared, and re-living that bad experience over and over in your mind.
Unable to move on, you stay single for years, avoiding intimacy or going in and out of one dead-end relationship after another.
Don’t let this be your destiny.
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This instantly downloadable book has great content that I decided to keep separate from “Why He Disappeared,” as it deals exclusively with dating online.
This book is also divided into 3 main sections, so you can understand the 3 biggest reasons that men disappear while communicating with you.
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I am a 33 year old, mother of two from Lisbon, Portugal, with not much time for the actual dating scene, so I have been trying on-line dating since 2007. Obviously, it has not been working out too well for me. Sure, I have met a few men, been on quite a few dates, but not one “solid” relationship. I seemed to manage to chase all the men away. That’s when I came across Evan’s blog, which was truly enlightening.
Apparently, there are many more women like me out there: thirty-something successful career oriented women, divorced, with children, who have trouble “hanging on” to men, or letting the relationships develop at the pace they should. I did not find myself asking men questions, or pushing them away, I just withdrew when things were not moving at the pace I thought they should be moving (maybe I was the one doing the disappearing act, I don’t even know!) So, basically, I needed to find out what it was I was doing wrong. I basically learnt what to expect (or what not to expect) from men… And more importantly, how to act when I am around them. Let my guard down, be flirty, less aggressive and assertive. Relinquish control, and let them lead… Boy is that tough!
Sure enough, it has only been a little over a week since I started putting all I learned into practice, and my in-box on the dating site keeps getting inundated with replies to my messages, and invitations. There is this one particular man, from London, who sparked a special interest, and I think I have captured his. We started exchanging e-mails, and as you taught me Evan, I started mirroring his moves. He e-mails, I e-mail back. He texts, I reply. So far, so good. He is currently on a business trip in Mexico, hasn’t logged on to the dating site for a week, but still sends me an e-mail every single day. 🙂 I don’t want to get too hyped up about him, but we have plans to meet in a month, so I’ll let you know how it went!
All I know is that it feels great to have all this attention, things going so smoothly, and with no special effort on my part whatsoever. It is extremely hard to “let go”, but it is well worth the effort!
Thank you Evan, for putting my dating life back on track!
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My boyfriend broke up with me last month out of the blue. I was crushed and felt like the rug had been pulled from under me. Even though we had been only dating for 4 months, it felt like everything was progressing organically. We met each other’s friends and families.
We shared the same values and seemed to be falling more and more in love each day. We seemed perfect for each other and everything felt so right. Out of all my relationships, he treated me the best and made me feel so special. Then one day he told me that we were not compatible, that he fell out of love with me, and that he no longer saw me in his future. I thought he was “The One” and felt it in my heart. When he dumped me, I was so heartbroken.
I wanted him to come back badly and to realize what I did wrong. I kept blaming myself. I wanted to know why he disappeared on me, our relationship and our future together. I wanted to make things right by figuring out how I needed to change. I automatically assumed I was the problem.
I’ve been reading self-help books on breakups in order to move on but none could explain why he left and so abruptly at that. Your ebook “Why He Disappeared” gave me closure and the answers I was looking for. You opened my eyes to the fact that my boyfriend left because he didn’t love me unconditionally, because he didn’t accept me for who I was. I didn’t do anything wrong. I was not to blame. If he was meant to be my partner for life, he would have stayed through the thick and thin, through the bad of it all. He would have worked on our problems together. But instead he bailed. Clearly, he was not the man for me.
I feel liberated and relieved to know these truths, like a great weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I don’t blame myself for the breakup anymore. He left because of him, not because of me. I am in such a better place today because of your insights and inspirational guidance. I was so stuck on getting him back and learning what I did wrong, but now I realize that I don’t want him back!! I deserve someone better, someone who will love me unconditionally and be there to the end, no matter what.
Frankly, I feel optimistic and excited about dating again. I am looking forward to meeting my future partner and I know he will love me unconditionally, just as I will love him unconditionally. I have faith and I have found peace. I feel more confident about myself and the future.
Thank you so much for “Why He Disappeared”, Evan. I feel alive again! No more tears!!
Why He Disappeared eBook ($97)
Why He Disappeared Audio ($97)
Why He Disappeared Online ($27)
Why He Disappeared Online Audio ($27)
Audio Class on What You Should Look For in a Man ($24.97)
Audio Class on How to Empathize With Men ($24.97)
Audio Class with Rori Raye on Understanding Men and Commitment ($24.97)
Video Interview with Carol Allen on How to Be the Woman of His Dreams ($47.97)
FOCUS Coaching Call Overcoming Negativity ($47.97)
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You’ll know what men are expecting from a first date. You’ll remember what you should do when he doesn’t call when he says he will. You’ll understand why he gets distant sometimes and when you should just let him go.
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I was on the borderline of discouragement and throwing in the towel in terms of dating. I experienced long-term relationships but they were always out of sync. When I wanted to commit, the guy didn’t. When I didn’t want to commit, the guy did. Then there were the dates that I thought went well but there wasn’t a second and vice versa. I needed to understand WHY.
Of course, as women, we talk to our women friends. That got me nowhere so finding your Evan Marc Katz website and getting WHD answered the question from someone that really knew the answer; another man.
I learned, much to my relief, that it’s not always my fault. That I shouldn’t take it personally. And that I’m the only one I can change; the rest will happen organically.
My faith teaches, “the Truth shall make you free”. Well, today, I am free!!
The “truth” hurt. I didn’t realize I had made an appointment for open-heart surgery. The thing with open-heart surgery is, when it’s required/necessary in order to live a productive/quality life, it’s for our good. I read WHD the first time and it was like the saw was cutting through my ribcage. I read WHD the second time and it was the cleaning out of my major arteries. I read it the third time and it was as if I was being stitched up. Now I’m healing. I’m in therapy; I ordered Finding the One Online. I’m on the road to complete recovery. I feel better than I have since I was a teenager and started this dating journey.
Thank you.
Of course, as women, we talk to our women friends. That got me nowhere so finding your Evan Marc Katz website and getting WHD answered the question from someone that really knew the answer; another man.
I learned, much to my relief, that it’s not always my fault. That I shouldn’t take it personally. And that I’m the only one I can change; the rest will happen organically.
My faith teaches, “the Truth shall make you free”. Well, today, I am free!!
The “truth” hurt. I didn’t realize I had made an appointment for open-heart surgery. The thing with open-heart surgery is, when it’s required/necessary in order to live a productive/quality life, it’s for our good. I read WHD the first time and it was like the saw was cutting through my ribcage. I read WHD the second time and it was the cleaning out of my major arteries. I read it the third time and it was as if I was being stitched up. Now I’m healing. I’m in therapy; I ordered Finding the One Online. I’m on the road to complete recovery. I feel better than I have since I was a teenager and started this dating journey.
Thank you.
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P.S. Imagine never having to agonize over what you said or did because a guy disappeared after a few dates or stopped calling when things seemed to be going so great. You’ll get a whole new perspective on dating and men and you’ll finally be able to relax and be yourself around men!
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I was going through the mechanics of a divorce from a VERY abusive and controlling man. Found out that he had periodically gone through my computer for the 11 years we were married and checked up on every site that I had visited. Was coming out of a very bad place, had serious anxiety issues. My situation was compounded because I was originally from an African country that treated women like second class citizens and he and his family had done this for years. Worse still, I had allowed them to do so.
Well, I’d met my ex-husband when I was 17 and basically dated only him through college (even though he treated me badly a lot of the time), he was also the only guy that I had slept with. I was 35, divorced, had 3 little children, ready to reclaim my life and realized that since I’d been in a bad, loveless relationship for so long, I didn’t know the first thing about being in a healthy, loving relationship with an American man :-). I wanted to find out what a healthy relationship looked like, what to expect while dating and just generally how to conduct myself.
The most important lesson I learned from “Why He Disappeared” was that I needed to put aside my preconceived notions of what my ideal guy was like and give real guys a chance (you would think I would’ve known this since my ex was the stereotypical tall, dark and handsome man that ended up being really self centered and a huge mama’s boy). In addition, I learned that it was okay to approach dating with a strategy, that it wasn’t manipulative to do so and that being yourself meant that you could be your best self. Wow, that kind of gave me permission to go out there and enjoy myself! Another important lesson I got from the book and your website was that it was okay to be a cool girl and to give men a break. I also really appreciated your very commonsensical view on dating, it was like a breath of fresh air; you’re like the big brother I never had :-). Your views on bad relationships also helped me heal and move on from my former marriage.
Well, I decided to give a guy from my previous job a chance. He was a little nerdy, smaller in stature and shorter than what I was used to, but taller than me. He was very handsome, fit, successful and great at what he did, but not your typical alpha male. I had invited him for my birthday party right before I left my old job and he came. He was soo much fun, he played the games I’d set up, helped me bbq and set up my party (he was the first guest to arrive) and invited me out to dinner as a birthday present. He was a guy that ordinarily I would have politely given an excuse not to go to dinner with, but something about what you said about giving a different type of guy a chance resonated with me and I decided to go to dinner with him.
Well, one thing led to the other, we went on many more dates, I played it cool, asked him one time early in the relationship what he wanted out of dating and just relaxed and enjoyed the moment and every single date I was on. I particularly found useful after the first couple of dates your lessons on mirroring and reciprocating. I let him text and call me first, even though the texts were few and far between initially. I didn’t get upset when he didn’t call when he said he would, I answered the phone in a happy voice each time he did end up calling.
I never put any pressure on him. Told him that I’d like to get a chance to know him better and have fun because I enjoyed his company. Didn’t discuss our relationship status or lack thereof and have had a blast. I really lived in the moment, which was very, very new to me, with my last relationship, I was always focused on the future, anxious and stressed out.
We’ve been dating for 10 months now and things are FABULOUS! He calls me everyday! Says he really enjoys my company, goes out of his way to do nice things for me. Is monogamous and expects the same from me! I’m with a guy that is 9 years older than me, but treats me like an equal. He’s funny, wicked smart, kind, laid back and a TOTAL gentlemen. I feel very fortunate that I gave him a chance and that he’s in my life. The best part is that there is NO DRAMA!
“Why He Disappeared” made me feel like I was in control of my love life and that it was not in control of me, that is a very good feeling. I’m VERY happy with myself and my relationship. I’m able to relax and not stress about the future, I’m enjoying the here and now and its SOO much FUN! My boyfriend has mentioned on a few occasions that he can’t believe we haven’t had one argument or disagreement. I’m so proud of myself.
It can finally happen for you when you read “Why He Disappeared – The Smart, Strong, Successful Woman’s Guide to Understanding Men and Keeping the Right One Hooked Forever”
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