What Does Your Body Language Say on a Date?

I’ve never heard of this guy, Blake Eastman. He’s a 27-year-old guy in New York who is a body language expert and runs dating workshops. But just because I don’t know who he is doesn’t mean he’s not onto something.

Believe me, you don’t need a doctorate in order to help others.

You just need to be a keen observer of people and willing to speak an objective truth. The rest is just practice in pattern recognition. That’s what I’ve been doing here for nearly 10 years. That’s what it appears Eastman does as well. He gets people to look at themselves in the mirror – almost literally.

Eastman gets people to look at themselves in the mirror – almost literally.

Says Eastman, in response to a question about how daters can improve their skills. “Video,” he says. “You watch yourself on tape. Then you can change.” It might be a creepy move to set up a video camera on a first date, but Eastman will approximate the experience for you in his workshop by filming you talking to your classmates.”

I’ve always wanted to do something like that, but I find I can reach more people via the Internet than I can in a live seminar. Good for Eastman. As for his take on his success as a body language/dating expert, his take is rather refreshing. Says the Slate article:

“Eastman doesn’t give the impression that he aims to gather admirers but rather that he yearns to help people feel as comfortable as he’s learned to feel. “Communication is the most important part of relationships,” he says. “I want people to learn to communicate.”

Amen to that.